I didn't have a real agenda for my surprise visit. All I wanted was to talk and walk with her as she lived life. We had two nights and one day together filled with chatter, reminiscing, loving and serving her parents and hanging with my older sister. Everyday she drives into town to cook dinner for my elderly grandparents. She reminds Nana to take her pills and listens to the story of the day that has decided to get stuck in that sweet lady's mind. Whatever the story, it plays on repeat multiple times. But she's wonderful and we love her. My Grandfather enjoys discussing current events but after a few minutes you've deafened your own self trying to speak loudly enough to be heard. As you can imagine, even after 60+ years they make a fine pair. My aunts and uncle do what they can when they are able and no doubt wish they were close enough to be even more involved. Mama doesn't complain or allow herself to feel overwhelmed. She stays even keeled and joyful even while exhausted.
During one of our trips down memory lane Mama relived moments from the time she moved in with her brother in order to help his wife end a battle with cancer. Anyone who has watched a cancer patient fight knows these are difficult days. My mom left her life for half a year in order to be with those she loved during an impossible ordeal. She was blessed with flexibility her other sisters didn't have then and she has been blessed with proximity to her parents her sisters and brother don't have now.
I'm the selfish one. I am saddened when Granny isn't able to come watch a football game or chorus concert. It's hard to hear her so tired and not be local myself. The past few days reminded me that for 38 years I've been blessed beyond measure over and over again by her sacrificial nature. To whom much is given much is required and I have been blessed to have for a mother this little lady who delights in serving those she loves most.
Here's a video of my Nana telling the story of her conversion...a story that would be easy to listen to a hundred times over.